Sex offender's spouse harassed!!!

In my last blog, I told you about the sex offender who is suing his therapist and was facing retaliation by the Feds. In this blog, I'm going to tell you the story of the sex offender's wife( the same sex offender who is suing his therapist) who was harassed by his parole officer... a Fed with a major attitude problem!!! (Big surprise there!!!) Any way, when the 2 Feds came to came to the RSO's house, one of the Feds was a supervisor. The wife of the RSO asked to speak to the super privately as she had never met the past supervisors and could not file an informal complaint. The harassment complaints were as follows: 1) when she and the RSO were engaged, the PO came to the house when she was alone (or was she?) and proceeded to tell her in great detail the facts about the crime her fiance was convicted for. He then explained to her what life with a parolee would be like...the unannounced visits, the conditions of parole, etc. He also stated that this RSO would never get off supervised parole and would be going back to prison. He kept stating the same things over and over again for 45 minutes even though the wife said she knew all about it, didn't care because she loved this man and everyone deserves a second chance. She also stated that she could live with the unannounced visits and the restrictions of the conditions of his parole. Nothing swayed him....he continued to argue and preach until about 30 mins before her fiance was due home from work. 2) During one unannounced visit, the wife was preparing 2 pounds of shrimp to make shrimp Alfredo. The shrimp were already peeled and de-veined so all she was doing was pulling the tails off. The PO came and demanded she stop immediately and sit down. Let me give you the picture, her kitchen is a very small galley kitchen. She was at the stove doing the preparation as there is no counter space. Her husband was sitting at the table directly behind her. The PO was standing immediately to her left, between her and the door. There were no knives or other weapons close by. No water had been boiled. Anyway, she was forced to leave the shrimp unattended for 30-45 minutes. After she sat at the table with her husband, the PO went and leaned against the stove, directly over the shrimp, stomping his feet when he wanted to make a point. After he left, she had to throw the shrimp away. Why? It had been out for 30-45 minutes and she had concerns about it being out too long plus he had been standing directly over them, stomping his feet and she didn't know what had might have fallen off him into the shrimp. After all, he had made other visits prior to visiting them. YUK!!!!! 3) The PO often makes comments on the color of her hair or the darkness of her skin So, she had told the super of her issues. He didn't comment on 2 of the issues but did state that the reason she was told to sit was for the safety of the PO. Well, if that was the case, he could have been more polite and allowed her to put the shrimp in the refrig. But no!! He treated her like she was his parolee and was very rude!!! The only other comment that the super said was...if this really happened. So he doesn't believe her!!! Guess he will if she decides to file a complaint with the office of professionalism and brings a witness with her. She knows why the PO was making those comments to her and often enters her personal space when he catches her home alone (you know the personal space is that space between you and another person that you feel comfortable) is to try and make her husband mad and hopes he tries to do or say something so he can violate him. After all, the RSO and his wife were told personally by local law enforcement when he went to register that the PO had called them demanding anything they could get on the RSO so he could put his ass back in jail. Just another day in the life of the wife of a sex offender!!! So exciting!!! My life is far from boring. One challenge after another!!! I'll keep you posted!!

Sex Offender Sues Therapist!!!!

A Parsonsburg, MD RSO sues his therapist and others involved: Kathryn Seifert and Karen Ray of Eastern Shore Psychological of Salisbury, MD and a past employee, Paul DesPres. According to the claim, the suit includes Kathryn Seifert's refusal to turn over his personal health information as per HIPPA. The claim states that once he received his information there were several discrepancies within his records. These discrepancies, according to the claim, include: 1)Seifert stating that the RSO had received over a dozen evaluations, 2 of which were over 5 hours long ( The RSO claims he was given none and since those evaluations were not disclosed to him as Seifert and Ray stated they were "Trade Secrets" but state and Federal law require them to release his answers and raw test scores. To date they have not done so.), 2)The summary of the evaluations was signed by Seifert and DesPres in July 2007 (the evaluations were supposedly administered in 2001 , DesPres had ceased his employment for Eastern Shore Psychological in 2002 , in 2007 DesPres was not licensed as a counselor in MD, DE, or VA, and the RSO has never met DesPres.) 3) Several forms within the RSO's medical files contained the RSO's forged signature. Interestingly still, according to 2 Federal Officials, Eastern Shore Psychological receives all the federal contracts for all sex offenders east of the Bay Bridge. (There are more discrepancies, but the few listed were the high lights). Sex offender programs are normally 12, 24 or in extreme cases 36 months in length. According to the claim of this RSO's law suit, he has been in Sex Offender Therapy for 9 years based upon the results of the falsified evaluation supposedly performed by Kathryn Seifert and Eastern Shore Psychological. It is also noted in the claim, that this RSO had 2 previous evaluations done: one at PRMC and one with a private practice: both evaluations determined that this RSO did not need therapy. Yet a few months later, Seifert states that not only did he need therapy but also long term therapy. In the claim, the RSO stated that one of his previous therapist at Eastern Shore Psychological , had told him that he(the therapist) had recommended to Seifert in the presence of the RSO's Parole Officer that the RSO be discontinued from treatment. The therapist stated that Seifert stated that the RSO will continue with treatment for monetary reasons only. The RSO's parole officer was present when Seifert stated this according to the therapist. Hmmmmmmmmm!

Ok!! More interesting events. On July 9, 2009, the RSO was visited by 2 Federal officials. One of the topics of discussion: Eastern Shore Psychological were refusing to continue to see the RSO because he was suing them. According to the Feds, this was a condition of the Parole Commission (but in truth, the Parole Commission had left it up to the Parole Officer). Then, there was a discussion about a supposedly new Federal law (I searched and googled and contacted everyone I know and I can't find it!). This federal law requires maintenance polygraphs to be given as often as every 6 months if necessary. This polygraph will be referencing any possible criminal activities that the RSO may have done since his being on parole. (Let me point out that a federal parolee can be violated and returned to prison for such things as a speeding ticket, accidentally running a red light, etc.) Not to mention that this maintenance polygraph violates the fifth amendment and other constitutional rights. Then there were the discussions that were basically BS: old cell phone number on parole report, need to know exactly how many hours are actually worked in a week( the RSO is a salaried employee, considered full time, drives a semi ) So it doesn't really matter how many hours he works, he gets paid the same amount of money each week whether he works 10 hours or 70. The conditions of his parole is that he keeps a full time job.....and he has a full time job. What's the problem? In other words, the July 9th visit was in retaliation for him suing Seifert, Ray of Eastern Shore Psychological.

Let me ask all of you this: If you had a contract with a company, and found out that they were being sued for falsifying records just to maintain a lengthier contract and get more money out of the people who had hired them, wouldn't you be more interested in the outcome of the suit then at retaliating at the one suing? After all, if they had falsified the records of one company....did they falsify any others for purely monetary reasons?

And life goes on in the life of the wife of a sex offender...............I'll keep you posted.

Sorry....I haven't been good!!

I know I haven't written in a long while. I know I told you about hurting my back. Well, I am no longer working because my back pain is so severe. I've been told I can never go back to working as a clinical nurse again. Guess I'm not going to be able to work anywhere because I tried after 2 office positions and when they heard I hurt my back, they said they didn't think the position was for me. My poor husband is carrying all the financial burden since my short term disability carrier won't extend my coverage after April 30th saying they didn't have enough to go on but I could appeal it...which I did and am just waiting for a decision. In the mean time, I'm getting nothing from worker's comp but I do have a hearing June 23rd!! So, I surrendered one of my cars since my husband couldn't pay for 3 and we recently had to drop our health insurance I received through my company because it was too expensive and will be going with his company's but for 30 days...NO insurance. That's scary in this day and time.

I have resigned as MD state organizer for ReformSexOffenderLaws.org as most days I can't even get out of bed and stay doped up on vicodin and oxycontin for pain. But they are a great organization and hope all of you go to their site to see what they are doing.

I do have a small garden and we planted lots of corn and watermelon and cucumbers to sell plus multiple yard sales...basically doing anything to get some extra cash.

I hope to write again soon...but I can't promise anything!!! Let me know how you all are doing.

Sex offenders are always the bad guys!!!!!!!!!!

My husband recently stopped at WalMart in his truck. Before he was able to get out, some woman climbed up in his truck (a semi) and demanded $50 or she was going to call the cops. He told her "Let's see who can call them first!" Then he stepped out on the side bumper and called 911. When the lady saw that he was truly calling the cops, she got out and went over to a dark blue SUV, opened passenger door, spoke quickly to the driver then they both took off like a bat out of hell. When the cops came, one took my husband's info while the other attempted to look for the car. THE COP TOLD MY HUSBAND THAT IT LOOKED LIKE HE WAS THE VICTIM OF AN ATTEMPTED ROBBERY!When my husband got home, he told me all about it. A couple days later, his PO called wanting to know why my husband didn't call him and let him know that he had contact with the police. My husband told him that since nothing came out of it he didn't think he had to. His PO told him, that whenever he had any contact whatsoever with the police, he was to call him immediately!!! (That's right...my husband's PO has his name, phone number etc., flagged so that he can know right away what he does or who he calls!!!) Anyway, my husband began thinking, so he called his lawyer and went to the police dept and got a copy of the report. Everything on the report was as he stated but the last paragraph that the cop wrote was ALARMING! It stated that the police were going to further investigate why he had called the police and if there were any ulterior motive. He also reported that they (cops) were going to go to Walmart and get a copy of their surveillance tapes. (I guess, after running my husband's name, they found out he was a sex offender). And it gets better!! When my husband went to re-register for his 6 month registration, the deputy asked him about it and that his PO had told them to get all they can on the incident as he heard there was a witness that said the woman got in the truck. (Made it sound like my husband was soliciting) But there were no witnesses. The deputy also told my husband that someone ( he assumed it was his PO) had called the main dept of Maryland's sex registration dept and told them to list my husband as a violent predator. But the deputy called them and told them to change him back to what he was because he did not fit the criteria and they would need a court order to do so!! Again, my husband called his lawyer and updated him plus to request that he (his lawyer) ask for a copy of Walmart's tapes too.

This is just one real life example of the fact that a sex offender will never be a victim!! If my husband had been shot or stabbed during the course of a robbery, car jacking or mugging, it would somehow be made out to be that he had did something wrong!!!

Just another day in the life of a sex offender's wife!!!

Report on My Husband's Parole Termination Hearing

Sorry I haven't blogged for a long time. Have been busy with my husband's parole termination hearing. I'm sure you all, like we were, aware that it is a waste of time!!! The parole commission is a bunch of hypocrites. Last year, it didn't matter that my husband and I just got married. This year, it was one of the main reasons he didn't get off supervised parole: because he hadn't been married long enough to be considered a stable marriage. How many years must a couple be married to be considered in a stable marriage? I was married to my first husband 24 years before divorced him just pror to our 25th. Was that a stable marriage? Don't think so. My husband and I have a more loving and stable marriage then all the 24 years I was with my first. The other reasoning: He hadn't been employed long enough. Ok...so he just got the job in July 2008. Wasn't his fault. His PO put so many restrictions on his out of state travel that it was extremely hard to find a local run as a CDL driver. Then...he hadn't been living at his residence long enough. Ok...5 years isn't long enough? GIVE ME A BREAK! Then of course...his challenging his forced registration since under MD law he wasn't required to register since his conviction was almost 30 years ago. And then, the fact he didn't have a current polygraph. Let's forget the fact that the polygraph they want is not for therapeutic purposes but so investigate to see if he has been involved in any criminal activities other than the one he was charged with. And they want the same psycho to do it that is being investigated for falsifying his mental health evaluation, forging a counselor's signature and numerous other complaints. Stupid, ignorant people being paid to be the parole commission. More ignorant people being paid to be parole officers if they all are like my husband's. Course we had a visit from our favorite ass hole...his parole officer. He tried to give us his take on the parole commisions verdict....he thought that if my husband did everything they wanted, that he would be off supervised parole in a couple of years. Course, he got mad as a hornet when we both told him "NO WAY" and that we would let the court decide if they went above and beyond the law governing the PC. I just love this pony and cart show...and the attempts to make my husband perform like a puppet or a horse after a carrot on a stick. What they don't realize...my husband loves to litigate. He would rather spend a few days righting up legal appeals, challenges, law suits, tort claims, etc., then jump into the 3 ring circus. It gets very interesting around our house most of the time.

Hope all of you have a great week end and I will be writing again soon...I promise!

PS> Still been having a lot of pain with my back...many days I am unable to leave the bed. work is not honoring my doctor's restricted activities...so I get worse every day. Does anyone have any advice on what I can do? I have filed a complaint with the EEOC, my lawyer is working with worker's comp....I just don't know what more I can do. I'm missing a lot of days from work...yet I can't get them to fire me...they are trying to make me quit...but no can do...I'd lose all my worker's comp benefits then. Oh well...such is life!! Jerks to the left and jerks to the right.....