tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3262125013832702143.post5551893630507683657..comments2023-08-10T05:27:59.584-04:00Comments on SEX OFFENDERS AND THEIR WIVES: Sorry, Haven't written for a whileDeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04084719094071573879noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3262125013832702143.post-34231682358716055322008-09-28T22:49:00.000-04:002008-09-28T22:49:00.000-04:00PS..sorry meant to say crucify but my fingers were...PS..sorry meant to say crucify but my fingers were working faster than my brain.Deehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04084719094071573879noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3262125013832702143.post-40655553241014713252008-09-28T22:47:00.000-04:002008-09-28T22:47:00.000-04:00I appreciate your post, Kelly. Like I told Matthe...I appreciate your post, Kelly. Like I told Matthew, it was a fantasy and providing everything was a perfect world. There are a few evaluations that claim to know when someone is getting better and can give the percentage of probability of re-offending. It may be a good tool if it is actually given. My husband was supposed to have been given this evaluation. But when we requested his medical records and finally obtained a partial copy of his records,we found so much fraud and forgery in his records. A total of 12 evaluations were supposed to have been given to him through his sex offender program. Out of the 12 he might have had 2. Neither were the one that would calculate his re-offense probability. (Going on the assumption that they believe he is guilty). I think I stated it before in my blog...that fraud and forgery is under investigation by the state so I can't talk too much about that. Unfortunately, even with such a tool, there is no true way to decide. Do we give the benefit of the doubt...or do we continue to crcify all for a few who may re-offend? That is a hard question. Thanks for your input...Deehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04084719094071573879noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3262125013832702143.post-74496171172530189562008-09-28T22:33:00.000-04:002008-09-28T22:33:00.000-04:00Dee,I agree with Matthew - not sure about your ide...Dee,<BR/><BR/>I agree with Matthew - not sure about your idea.<BR/><BR/> I find it a very hard line to walk fighting for sex offender rights as some offenders are truly sick people who should be kept away from children at all costs. You are in a unique position that you have proof your husband is innocent. But for those truly sick individuals, there should be strict laws. The hard part about all of this is to be able to discern who is really getting better and who is not. I'm going to go back and read again - but have you addressed this in your blog? Should there be different restrictions for different people and who decides who is different. <BR/><BR/>Here in Vermont a few months ago a man who had been a sex offender before - who had 'completed' sex offender treatment. Had met and married a woman and had been released from probation, kidnapped, raped, killed, and buried in his back yard a 13 year old girl. People thought he was 'recovered' (for lack of a better descriptive word)and he was not and a little girl died because of it.<BR/><BR/>My husband is a sex offender - I have chosen to stay with him and try to eventually work things out, but I'm not sure I am ready to fight for any more rights for him. When I get frustrated about what we are going through I try to remember the heart of people making the laws is to protect children. <BR/><BR/>Guess I am just rambling. Thanks for listening.<BR/><BR/>K<BR/>http://thereisbeautyinthebreaking.blogspot.com/Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07107521374557461187noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3262125013832702143.post-64876509321072933572008-09-28T10:52:00.000-04:002008-09-28T10:52:00.000-04:00Yes of course your right Dee. And we are getting c...Yes of course your right Dee. And we are getting closer!!! It's not gonna be long until we will be heard with one voice, the websites all over the web are coming together and being organized it seems. Not too much longer hopefully!!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3262125013832702143.post-34383892815193613332008-09-27T16:47:00.000-04:002008-09-27T16:47:00.000-04:00Yes..you're right. Sounds like the true fairy tal...Yes..you're right. Sounds like the true fairy tale but once its pcked apart, you find things wrong. Course there would be stricter laws about anyone messing with anyone else's wives, girlfriends, or kids...but just a fairy tale with a happy ending...Your idea sounds ok but I can see it being taken too far and the results tainted to make everyone look like they are true. Just like when my husband took the polygraph...before he ever went in, his lawyer told him that they were going to say the results would say that he was lying...and he was right...why would the government pay for a test unless they were positive they would get the answers that they wanted? and the only way to do that was have the tester in their back pocket...There is no justice and no one seems to care that its wrong...Why should they? It's just Sex offenders. So we have got to all get together and be heard as one voice..thousands of voices all saying the same thing at the same time will get their attention. Until that happens, each of us as individuals are just drops in a bucket.Deehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04084719094071573879noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3262125013832702143.post-15854100137233998442008-09-27T08:01:00.000-04:002008-09-27T08:01:00.000-04:00Morning Dee!! Yeah, Im not sure about that idea. S...Morning Dee!! Yeah, Im not sure about that idea. Sounds good, but I can't imagine anyone with no sex crimes on their record ever wanting to go there. And raising Kids there? I mean I may be an RSO myself, but I wouldn't want to raise my kids around hundreds of other RSOs, many of whom are certainly true predators. I was reading something online today somewhere about why can't each individual RSO submit to physical TESTING to PROVE where their sexual interests are, thereby, (In theory anyway), separating the true pedophiles from the regular people who had inappropriate relationships, and especially the wrongly convicted, as is your man. This to me would seem to be the only way to actually separate the truly dangerous and deviant RSOs from the rest of them that certainly don't need all this stupid legislation. Anyway, that's the way I'd go if I could, because I know who I am. What do you think?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com